How To Win Friends And Influence People – (In Nutshell)

Part One: Fundamental Techniques In Handling People

1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain

2. Give honest and sincere appreciation 

3. Arouse in the other person an eager want 

Part Two: Six WaysTo Make People Like You 

1. Become genuinely interested in other people 

2. Smile 

3. Remember that a person’s name is to that the sweetest and most important sound in any language 

4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests. 

6. Make the other person feel important  – and do it sincerely

Part Three: Win People To YOu Way Of Thinking

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it 

2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong”

3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically 

4. Begin in a friendly way

5. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately

6. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers 

7. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking 

8. Try honesty to see things from the other person’s point of view

9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires

10. Appeal to the nobler motives 

11. Dramatize your ideas 

12. Throw down a challenge

Part Four: Be A Leader – How to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation 

2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly 

3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person

4. Ask question instead of giving direct orders 

5. Let the other person save face 

6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise”

7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to 

8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct 

9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.